Feeling demotivated? This helps.
Motivation is a bitch. It's never there when you need it. This quote is not mine. It is from Mel Robbins, an author and motivational speaker. This insight really helped me dealing with demotivation. Because when I feel demotivated, I often focus on feeling motivated again. And that does not help me getting somewhere.
These are moments that motivation is never there
When I want to speak up in a meeting, but don't feel sure about what to say.
When I want to have a network chat with someone, but not sure how to reach out.
Exercising. I know it's good for me, but I never feel like it.
Days with tasks that feel much, or a bit scary. The snooze button is way more tempting then.
Waiting for motivation is killing for reaching goals Every time we want to reach a goal, our brain wants to keep us in the comfort zone. Holding us back. This is what I learned from Mel Robbins. This knowledge puts my behavior in perspective. Because when I procrastinate, I feel so guilty. And then I wonder why I am so lazy. And then I think that I need a psychologist to become less lazy. And then I end up believing something is wrong with me! But that is nonsense. Knowing that my brain works like this, made me realize that I am not a bad person. It's just my brain tricking me! Don't feel. Just do. To feel motivated again for your goals, you don't have to worry about your feelings. They are not going to be there. And that is fine. You can act anyway! And Mel Robbins has a tip for that: use the five second rule. Launch yourself to the action.You just count 5-4-3-2-1, and walk to the gym! You count 5-4-3-2-1, and speak up. You count 5-4-3-2-1 and send that email. If you want to learn more about Mel's tips and how our brain works, this is a link to her webpage. She also shares a lot of practical tips on Insta. https://melrobbins.com/